Why “Career Mum”?

What is a career Mum?

Well, someone who sees motherhood as a career, of course!  Not a job, or what they do at the moment, or something on the side, but how they define themselves.

I first remember wanting to be a mother when I was a pre-schooler.  It was kind of a pain that I would have to wait until I grew up, met someone and got married to have kids.  Even at school when they would give us career counselling and I would say that is what I wanted to be I was faced with the ’80s mantra of “women can do more than that”.  Yes I could have children if I wanted (we need the species to continue, afterall), but we don’t really dedicate our lives to it, do we?  Do we?

Or do we?

Yes, I was very good at school.  Dux kind of good.  But I loved the domestic arts.  I went to uni.  I studied engineering and science (that is what “smart” girls do, right?)  I worked as a professional.  I was waiting to be a Mum.

I continuously chose relationships over work, much to the detriment of my “career”.  Even if they ended up being the wrong relationship, it was worth the risk.  Work, like uni, was what I did while I was waiting.

And then one day there were two little lines on a white stick.  At last it was coming together.

Being a full-time stay-at-home Mum is hard.  It can be brain-numbing and frustrating.  There is very little respect.  There is no money (although everyone assumes you must have lots).  There are no breaks – not even toilet breaks, so forget about days off or sick leave.  There is minimal adult conversation.

And it is the best job in the whole world.  I am glad that it is mine.


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